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Don’t Dive into Litigation

Divorce LitigationOnce the initial sting of the “D” word has cooled, the parties of a capsizing marital relationship must start reaching for a lifeboat in order to save what is best for them and for their family unit.

DuPage County collaborative law and cooperative divorce law have emerged as powerful alternatives for divorcing partners. These approaches make it easier for the parties to restructure their relationship, and better enable them to protect their family and finances.

“The lawyer’s role has morphed from litigators, to guardians of the process,” notes Gary Direnfeld (MSW, RSW), a Canadian social worker deemed an expert in custody and visitation matters by Courts in Canada. “Family law is no longer a zero sum proposition, but is now win-win.”

Now is the time to reach for the lifeboat. It’s time to plan and think. Every word counts in a settlement discussion. This is why so many attempts for an early DuPage County divorce settlement fall apart unnecessarily.

Simply wanting a less painful and less expensive divorce is not enough to guarantee a smooth settlement. Collaborative law and cooperative divorce law processes are now available to help the couples residing in Chicago and DuPage County. These processes provide valuable guidance to divorcing couples by showing them how to keep their divorces on time and on budget.

Society has recognized that marital relationships may change, but they don’t end. Children are often better served by parental relationships that remain respectful. “For those who see past the anger, there is now a myriad of alternative dispute resolution options,” adds Direnfeld.

Exerting a genuine willingness to understand the reason behind the other spouse’s position is vital to coming to terms with a settlement that works well for everyone. Before couples become entrenched in their dispute, it’s important to seek guidance for both financial advice and family support.

Divorce involves restructuring; and restructuring requires listening. This often means listening until both spouses realize that compromise does not mean losing- it means finding a workable solution. However, coping with the listening process is not an easy task. Take time to listen to the sounds of your divorce. Are you making all the noise, or are you listening?

Don’t dive into litigation; take a long hard look at the full range of divorce options that are now available to help you restructure your family relationship in as healthy and as positive a way as is possible.

 

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  • Don’t Dive into Litigation
  • DuPage County Collaborative Law and Cooperative Divorce Law
  • Achieving Peace and Harmony
  • Dealing with Infidelity
  • Keep Your DuPage County Divorce Friendly and Sensible
  • Divorce & Joint Custody in DuPage County, IL
  • Do Men Get Screwed In Divorce?
  • What to Tell the Children
  • Cooperative Divorce Law
  • Getting Your Spouse to Settle Out of Court – Should You Make the First Offer?
  • How to Convince your Stubborn Spouse to Settle Out of Court
  • What to Tell the Children
  • Infidelity – Should You Confront the Paramour?
  • What to Say to a Cheating Spouse.
  • Marital Infidelity: Telltale Signs of a Cheating Spouse
  • Making Joint Custody Work
  • 12 Tips to Help Children of Divorce
  • Your Divorce Should Not Cost More than Your Wedding
  • “I want my Divorce Lawyer to be a Pit Bull”
  • The Cooperative Approach
  • Divorce Myths and Misconceptions
  • Do We Have to be Separated Six Months?
  • Divorce Mediation – Is Like a Seeing-Eye Dog
  • Trial Separations are not “Trials” – Part Two
  • Trial Separations are not “Trials” Part One
  • Get a Flat Fee Divorce – Part Two
  • Get a Flat Fee Divorce – Part One
  • Parenting Tips from Court Experts
  • Heidi Montag to Use Divorce Mediation
  • Parenting Suggestions – Build a Firewall
  • Divorce Legal Advice – Helpful Parenting Tips
  • Divorce Information on Parenting Advice – Cushioning the Blow
  • Helpful Parenting Divorce Insights and Tips
  • Parenting Tips: What Society Never Told Us
  • Negotiating One-on-One with Your Spouse
  • How to Settle Out of Court, Our Non-Court Approach
  • You No Longer Have to be Married to get a Divorce
  • Communicating with Your Soon-to-Be Ex
  • Keeping Your Divorce Cooperative
  • Tips for Keeping It Simple
  • Explanation of a Flat Fee Divorce
  • Getting Past Anxiety Part Two
  • Dealing with Anxiety Part One
  • The Key to Keeping it Friendly
  • Handling an Angry Soon-to-Be Ex
  • The Double Whammy of Anger and Blame Part Two
  • Beware of Divorce’s Double Whammy Part One
  • Divorce Settlement Conversations between Spouses
  • Avoiding Divorce Court
  • Dealing with Your Spouse’s Stubbornness
  • Illinois Divorce Courts Are Likely to Become Less Crowded
  • They Never Gave Us Divorce Lessons
  • How To Tell Children About Divorce
  • How to Persuade Your Spouse to Settle Out of Court
  • Money Saving Divorce Negotiation Tips
  • Keeping It Friendly
  • The Divorce Negotiation Tie-Breaker
  • Tips for Negotiating Your Divorce
  • Using Persuasion to Disarm Your Spouse
  • Specific Tips for Settling Your Own Divorce – Part Six
  • Specific Tips for Settling Your Own Divorce – Part Five
  • Specific Divorce Settlement Tips Part Four
  • Handling Your Spouse Negotiation Tips – Part Three
  • More Do-it-Yourselves Settlement Tips – Part Two
  • What is a 4-Way Settlement Conference?
  • The Door to Divorce Court
  • When They Say, “Take It or Leave It.”
  • Grounds for Divorce In Illinois
  • Who Should Make the First Offer?
  • Specific Tips for Settling the Divorce Yourselves Part One

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